You may feel as though there's an expectation that you will instantly love the independence of university so if you don't, it might make you feel like the odd one out but this isn't the case. A lot of students admit to feeling lonely at university so it's completely normal. It can be hard to make the jump to a lot of independent studying and even spending time on your own for the first time.
There are some simple thing you can do for yourself to help relieve any loneliness you are feeling:
- Get out of the house - whether you just take a walk or join a society or team, change up your typical routine of sitting in your room. Talking to people, even just chit chat in passing, will improve your mood and confidence.
- Make sure you attend all your academic commitments - skipping lectures and seminars won't help. Sometimes you won't feel up to it and would much prefer to stay at home but it helps you to communicate with your fellow students about your everyday life and you could even start speaking about how you're feeling if you trust them; it would help!
- Take some time to think about how you're feeling and why. Student Minds have created this great guide to Transitioning into University Life that may help you recognise why you are feeling this way - and remind you that you're definitely not alone!
- It's important to stay healthy because a greasy takeaway will make you feel physically worse as well as emotionally. Cooking will distract your mind for a while and there will be tasty results! Likewise, joining a gym or a team provides plenty of opportunity to meet new people.
- Don't rely on the internet for your interactions. Put the phone down and simply walk down the corridor and speak to someone or head into town and you'll come across plenty of people to chat to. Social media doesn't help - You could be sat in your room with nothing to do whilst on Instagram and Facebook people you know are posting pictures of them and their many friends having the time of their life. Stop. Try not to compare yourself to them because that will lead down a negative path, your priority should be improving how you feel.
- Talk to someone! The university offers plenty of support for students living in Halls and so does the wider university. If you want to look elsewhere you can click here to find what support is available in your local area.